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Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be filled with problems, cause despair, and other troubles. In addition you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, funds, age difference, faith education, remorse, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the purpose of this post I will identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married women.

Why do married people have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are women seeking affairs. I think typically though it is just the human condition, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and cherished. Here are a several explanations I have run across.

Naturally we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us get away the world for a brief period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Somebody can switch the desire on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos the world has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the fury of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the mechanism?

Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not injure your family or anyone else? You will need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the feeling that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everyone, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest grouping, colossal actually. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, except they are comfortable in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the children to think about. Your money are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay jointly besides love and sex.

Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An affair at times solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage uharmed.

Ignoring, sadly this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his spouse for a number of reasons. As a man I actually am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “hot milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.

Something is just missing in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, maybe compassion is gone, could be it is the closeness, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our relulas interests diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is conflicting of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.